A brief introduction to the spirit of the times in today’s love life.
Psychologists recognize over 500 alternative sexual preferences, called paraphilias, so many people likely have a specific sexual preference. This is not a problem at all, as many of these inclinations are completely harmless and help individuals experience authentic and exciting sexuality, leading to pleasurable orgasms.
2. ParaphilieWhat is paraphilia? Some sexual preferences and inclinations deviate more significantly from what society typically considers "normal." When these preferences persist for longer than 6-8 months, are very intense and compulsive, and involve objects, specific activities like partner humiliation, etc., we refer to it as paraphilia.
2. FetischismusWhat is fetishism? It refers to when a person is sexually stimulated by specific objects. Examples include certain items of clothing such as high heels and silk underwear, materials like leather or latex, as well as body parts like feet or hair, smells, and fluids... The key is that it doesn't involve the conventional genital body parts.
What are the most common fetishes?
Exhibitionism and voyeurism
The exhibitionist finds it arousing to expose their genitals in public or even masturbate in front of strangers. A voyeur is a person who derives pleasure from watching others have sex without them knowing. Often, this also leads to self-stimulation
A person becomes aroused by wearing clothing of the opposite sex.Fetishistic transvestism
Multiple disorders of sexual preference-A person combines several sexual peculiarities, for example, enjoying being whipped while wearing a latex outfit.
Sadomasochism - Masochism is when a person finds stimulation in humiliation, punishment, pain, and restraint. The opposite, namely sadism, occurs when a person feels sexual pleasure from humiliating, beating, restraining, or inflicting pain on others.
I don't want to talk about pedophilia on this platform, as it crosses my own moral boundaries as a human being, but also as a doctor.
2. KinkA "kink" is a broad, non-judgmental term for "a wide variety of consensual, non-traditional, sensual, and intimate sexual behaviors such as sadomasochism, dominance and submission, erotic role-playing, fetishism, and erotic forms of discipline." (Samuel Hughes, American psychologist).
let`s focus on the Kinks What are the most well-known and common ones?
Discipline, dominance and submission, BDSM "BDSM" is a multilayered Acronymawhich is formed from the initial letters of the English terms “Bondage & Discipline, Dominance & Submission, Sadism & Masochism."
BondagePartially sadomasochistically influenced sexual practice, where one partner is pleasurably restrained. At its core, bondage is generally about power – dominance and submission, control and dependence, authority and ownership. In bondage, a person’s freedom of movement is restricted through restraints, which is experienced as very pleasurable.
Clothing fetish, leather fetish The most well-known fetishes are leather, rubber, or uniform fetishes. However, there are also wool, sneaker, boot, knee-sock, underwear, raincoat, or stiletto fetishes.
Spanking- "To spank" translates to "to smack" or "to beat." A classic example is a slap on the buttocks during lovemaking. Spanking can be done with varying degrees of intensity, is meant to enhance the mood, but should always take place with mutual consent.
Polyamory- - is a specific form of maintaining open relationships, which involves loving multiple people at the same time. Trust and the consent of all individuals involved usually play a significant role in this type of relationship.
Role plays- under the motto «"what if..."
Dominance is the key word in these practices. Playing roles also means swapping roles. This is a good opportunity to reverse the usual dominance behavior in the relationship.
Role plays do not have to, but may well include costumes. Additionally, a new or simply different location can give the game an extra thrill. Well-known examples include doctor-patient games, maid, and butler roles.
Is it "sick" to have a fetish or a certain sexual preference? As long as you feel comfortable and the sexual preferences do not negatively affect the emotional well-being, psyche, or body of others, the fetish is not pathological.
In my next blog, I will continue, more humorously and, of course, still non-judgmentally and respectfully. I will present interesting, almost bizarre kinks such as somnophilia, diaper fetish, cuckolding, and so on.
